Not many people know about the challenges that we had getting pregnant with my son, (who I typically refer to as “The 5 Year Old” in my posts.) In fact, before reading my story, “The Pluses & Minuses of Pregnancy” in the new It’s Really 10 Months – Special Delivery anthology, even many of our friends and family had no idea that we had dealt with secondary infertility and suffered through a series of what our doctor called ‘chemical pregnancies’ before finally getting pregnant with the 5yo.
Unfortunately, the challenges didn’t stop after I got pregnant. Yet we still continued to keep these struggles to ourselves for a variety of reasons.
I didn’t want to worry people.
I didn’t want to make the bad stuff real by saying it out loud.
I didn’t want to sound ungrateful to friends having bigger struggles than mine.
I didn’t want pity.
I didn’t want to jinx anything.
So why did I decide to share our private story with the entire world now?
Because over the years I have learned just how common secondary infertility is and how many women have suffered, or are suffering, the same kind of heartache that we did over our early losses. As I was going through that difficult time, I would have loved to have read a story about someone who had gone through the same struggles that we were going through and to see that a happy ending was possible.
And here’s a little photographic recap of my pregnancy with the 5yo to supplement the story.
Once upon a time, Susanne Kerns was a Senior Account Director at an advertising agency working for two of the top brands in the world. Nine years ago she traded in her corporate life for a life as a stay at home mom, raising two of the best kids in the world. She started her blog, The Dusty Parachute as a way to dust off her online advertising skills and begin her job search. Instead, she now uses it as a way to spend lots of time on the computer so her kids think that mommy has a job.
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11 thoughts to “The Pluses and Minuses of Pregnancy”
Clearly I should already know you. And congratulations! On both…no, wait…all three fronts!
Glad to meet you! I just visited your page as well and followed you back as my Dusty Parachute self and my Susanne self. Have a great week!
Infertility dominated our lives for many years, Ican’t wait to ready your story!
Awww… Such a sweet tribute to little-big man. I love this and the pictures are awesome. Damn you for looking hot as a pregnant woman! Miss you, girl. Oh, and love all the FREE PRESS you’re giving the book. Bring it! 😉
You’re too kind. Man, what I wouldn’t give for that prenatal vitamin hair I had though. Pregnancy is the only time when I don’t look like I’m going bald.
Really enjoyed reading this – especially with the happy ending. 🙂 Good luck with the book!
Congrats on the book AND the babies. 🙂 That hospital food looks top-notch!
Can’t wait to read your story 🙂
I can totally relate about the compression stockings…they are their own special brand of hell!! Can’t wait to read the book! And FYI, loved this line, “There’s a reason I call my son “the Kim Kardashian of ultrasounds”
Just read & reviewed the book on Amazon. HILARIOUS. Loved your piece & the rest!
Thanks so much for reading it and for leaving a review! I’m so glad that you enjoyed it.